Elements Of Emotional Wisdom!

by Gopi Nair
January 30th 2019

Our mind is an instrument of perception, to explore and understand the universe! Our body is an instrument of expression, expressing the feelings and emotion we create internally. A balance between the body and mind is very essential for us to function effectively in this world! Emotional wisdom is the application of our emotional knowledge in the light of our life experience. It is a combination of knowledge about the instrument of perception and its application to deal with everyday challenges in life!. Emotional Wisdom is as an art as well as a science, as involves knowledge and regular practices.


Nobody can see our thoughts, as it is a mental activity, hidden in the secret chambers of our mind. But the effects of thoughts appear as feelings and emotions on display. Just like a giant oak tree is hidden in a small acorn, a tiny thought is capable of itself coming out as a burning desire to change the world.Every thought is a spark of spirit , hidden in its womb is the creative principle. Creation happens in two stages: one in the form of thought in the creator's mind, and then as a seeable touchable reality in the outside world1We are transacting with other people using our mind and emotions. Other people are transacting with us using their apparatus containing thoughts ,feelings and emotions. Thus our emotions represent the language of our mind, and knowing this language help us to gauge our own state of mind, as well as others.This is essential for harmonious relationship. Hence we need to master sufficient proficiency in Emotional Wisdom.


We can classify our emotions into two categories, one is positive emotions and the other one is negative emotions.Positive emotions are healing emotions that create positive responses in the other, and negative emotions are hurting emotions that create negative responses in the other. Examples of positive emotions are Love, Gratitude, Compassion, and respect. Examples of negative emotions are hatred, anger and fear. We want to cultivate more or positive emotions, and reduce the growth of negative emotions. Understanding the effect of these emotions help us to understand the effect of these emotions in others. Emotional Wisdom is a spiritual tool that we have to navigate through our life. Our emotions are very important for our own functions in everyday life. An imbalance in our emotions results in roller coaster behavior, and it can affect our health and well being.It is very important for us to understand our inner feelings and emotions, and do necessary adjustments in life style to correct them.Emotional well being is as important as physical well being, may be even more important than the physical well being, as our physical body is a shadow of our mind, the seat of emotions.


You can not look for a fire extinguisher when the house is on fire. You can not cultivate Emotional Wisdom when you face a great challenge in life. Challenges will be there for all of us, and life does throw some curb balls at us sometime or the other. In a life filled with challenges after challenges, Emotional Wisdom as a Spiritual Tool empowers us to face the challenge with courage and fortitude, rather than falling apart like a house of cards. It is possible that there will be heart breaking moments when one loses the job, loses a loved one or falling ill. When these unexpected events take place you are emotionally prepared,You can also help others like immediate family members or friends when they face these challenges because of your own familiarity with Emotional Wisdom.


Besides, extreme life's challenges, we need emotional strength to deal with every day decision making at work. We are constantly negotiating with our staff, superiors, and vendors and contractors. There is always a possibility of clash of emotions and you can effectively diffuse colliding situations, and bring more harmony without stepping on the toes of the other. From the moment we wake up in the morning till we go to sleep, we are negotiating with our world whether at the personal level or corporate level. We are negotiating constantly with our own children and the significant other one. Many times emotions run high, and an element of Emotional Wisdom could save our sanity.


The following three elements form the core of Emotional Wisdom:

YOUR ABILITY TO ACT INSTEAD OF REACTING: We are wired to react to every situation because it has become a personal habit. We have been reacting from childhood for whatever reasons, and now it has become a habit.Habit is a merciless master, and it can play havoc with your life. We need to understand the dangers of reacting, and cultivate the habit of acting . It is easier said than done. We need to develop "Responsibility"-our ability to respond effectively.First stop reacting, and second act with proper preparation and care. Our innate habit to react is very dangerous, as it can make you a floor mat for others to step on. We need to change that habit slowly, and prepare the mind to respond effectively. Stopping to react to everyone and everything is the first step knowing Emotional Wisdom.


CULTIVATE GRATITUDE: Gratitude is the mother of all positive emotions. A grateful mind is like a shock absorber! It can absorb any shock in life, and the negativity directed at you will become a part of the gratitude itself. Negativity loses its identity, when it is met with Gratitude. Gratitude must be the only attitude in life! It is a magic wand to erase negativity from the shores of your mind.Even if you know nothing about Emotional Wisdom, you practice Gratitude your life will be less stressful and harmonious.Gratitude also means appreciation, respect compassion and care. It is a multi faced positive emotion.Cultivate it profusely in every day life.When you have appreciation for everything around you, it is a great blessing.


EMPATHY: Empathy is listening without judging. You have no reason to judge another person as you are not in his situation.You will step into the spiritual shoes of the other person, when you empathize. you can relate to others, you can feel their pain and their frustrations.Empathy is also a form of psychotherapy. When you listen to the other person, without judging the other person can confide with you, and that act has a therapeutical effect. Hence empathy becomes an integral part of Emotional Wisdom. In interpersonal relationship empathy plays a vital role in inducing harmony.

Empathy is really a great tool to connect with others. People can smell your sense of empathy from a distance. Empathy has a magnetic effect in attracting people. People want to be with people who are understanding type, and who do not have big mouth . Empathic people do not have their own agenda, and they only expect the well being of others. Their emotional stability is beyond ordinary. They are at peace with themselves!


Practicing Emotional Wisdom can enhance the joy of life in the world. It can help you navigate through life with ease and peace. When tragedies strike, misfortunes fall, and emotions rise, you are in a better position to handle those situations. You can help you, and help others in dealing with those crisis situations. It is the ultimate problem solver, it can cure a wavering mind, and faltering emotions. Emotional Wisdom is an anchor for the shattered mind to find refuge and solace. Practice it, you will love it!



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